Taking Advantage of the Positive Side of Certain Compulsive Behaviors

I remember when I was a child playing war with plastic soldiers my friends would get mad waiting for me to arrange my battalions properly in straight lines before the battle started. Later on when at home preparing to do my homework I would spend time arranging my books in order, pencils and pens on one side, sharpener and calculator in another. Everything was set within my reach in the order that I would be using them. My older sister would sometimes come along and mess everything up just to make me mad and I would stop working just to set it up again.

It is something I fought against for many years but was never able to get rid of the order nuisance, like my mother called it. Believe it or not my teenage room was always in perfect order too, my clothes, cd's, shoes, everything had a specific place where it had to be. I never considered it a problem; it is a part of the way I am. My friends and family called me crazy and many times lost their patience waiting for everything to be just right. And then I went to the university and everything changed, all my classmates wanted to study with me, everyone wanted to work on their projects with me, from being the worst I became the best.

I studied industrial and electric engineering, we had lots of projects, terms and procedures to study and learn and not enough time to do it in. From the very beginning there was a difference between my classmates and myself, my compulsion turned into an asset. I worked on my projects fast and efficiently, I programmed my classes and study time perfectly and in the specific order my mind dictated. I graduated second in my class behind someone who was believed even crazier than I was. During the four years we were in the university we had the opportunity to work together several times and we were dynamite together. Today he is a consultant for NASA and I am a writer retired from engineering.

It is up to each one of us to accept special characteristics and eccentric ways of doing things that we have. It is up to each one of us to learn how to use them to our advantage. Most of the time it is much easier to find a way to use certain behaviors positively than trying to change them. In fact you may waste years trying to correct or change these behaviors and will never be able to do it. It does not matter what people think about you or your ways, what matters is what you think about yourself and what you do with what you have. The only way to be happy in life is first to be happy and satisfied with the way you are as a person, not what you do or how much you have but who you are.

It does not matter how old you are, what you do or what you want to do if at this point in your life you have not come to terms with yourself, now is the time to do. Everyone in the world has a reason to be in this world, in one way or another we are all part of a larger scheme, a larger picture. It is not fair to be unhappy with yourself, if you are; you will make those around you unhappy too. This is not fair; we each have our own problems and situations to resolve. Look at yourself, look at what is inside of you, accept who you are and be happy. You owe it to yourself and those who love and care for you.

Life is too short to waste it complaining or trying to change what you can not change. Embrace life and turn those potentially negative characteristics into great assets for your life and that of your family. Success and happiness are in your mind and heart, no one is going to give them to you, your destiny and your life are yours to accomplish. Each human being shares his or her life with others but the way you feel about yourself and the way you travel on this road called life is your choice and no one else's.

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Looking Forward to the Past – When Your Past Haunts You Back

People usually develop some sort of psychotic disorder after experiencing life trauma. It complicates the matter when your past is difficult to forget and forgive. Overloaded with your past, it makes you hard to heal from inside out. That is why emotional conflicts relapse easily when there is a trigger point.

I have two clients, who experienced anxiety and depression. They both exhibited the intent of committing suicide, as they told me. One (Client A) has a job, and another (Client B) is out of the job market for a long time. She even could not drive because of the ailment. The former was taking medication when we first met; the latter stopped her medication because she could not afford a good one.

The use of aromatherapy wave promoting results to the healing of anxiety and depression. I made an inhaler to each of them. The formula that I gave them is as follows:

5 drops of Frankincense ( Boswellia carterii)

3 drops of Orange ( Citrus sinensis)

2 drops of Roman Chamomile ( Chamaemelum nobile)

Renowned for its healing properties, Frankincense is good for calming the emotions, and our mind. Since it supports the healing of all emotional levels, it is inevitable that anxiety and depression can be relieved to a certain extent. It can also help that person stay focused. Together with the essential oil of Orange, the soothing and calming properties of the combination relieve the symptoms and elevate the spirits. Also, this combination promotes the flow of internal energy. With Roman Chamomile added, the calming and soothing effect is enhanced.

For Client A, after inhaling the aroma for two weeks, she could stop the medications. She became more positive, and optimistic. Two weeks later, she got rid of her ailment. She no longer experienced any relapse even after discontinuing aromatherapy.

For Client B, she has had anxiety and depression for more than 10 years. The inhaler calmed and cleared her mind. She could express herself more clearly. She could also stay focused for a longer time. After two weeks of use, she could stay focused, and lived like a normal person. Since this is a chronic ailment, it does take some time for her to recover completely.

When dealing people with psychotic symptoms, some aromatherapists prefer to release their deep rooted hidden emotions first. My concern is that the triggering of the past emotions could further complicate the healing process as the outbursts could be out of control and make it hard for them to handle. I took a softer approach – to alleviate the hidden emotions of the past, be it hatred or sadness. One hour before they sleep, I asked them to inhale the following aroma in an inhaler:

5 drops of Cedarwood ( Juniperus virginiana)

3 drops of Melissa ( Melissa officinalis)

2 drops of Jasmine Absolute ( Jasminum grandiflorum)

The grounding Cedarwood can instill our confidence in facing tough situation and our past. Melissa can comfort our heart, calm and sooth our agitated emotions. Most importantly, it can help us sleep better – so that we can heal quicker. Like Melissa, Jasmine Absolute can comfort our heart and relieve suppressed and inhibited emotions.

Client C was diagnosed with bi-polar disorder. Her condition was under control, but is still taking some mood enhancers. She visits a psychiatrist once every few months for follow-up. Her main concern was that she had flash back from her past, which made her difficult to forgive and forget what had happened. She even wanted to take revenge for the bad things in her life. To resolve this issue, I advised her to use the above-mentioned formulation. After using it, she had some vivid dreams, but those were light ones. When she woke up, she felt that she was still in a light and happy mood. Her day went well with her taking the mood enhancers. Her flashback with her past started to subside, and she was taking a more positive approach to life. At least, she does not live a double – character life.

The continuous use not only can make one's sleep sound, but also can also sooth our heart so that we can absorb our past, and release it in a constructive way.

“Scents touch our heart;

Scents heal our past ”

The cases above demonstrate the effectiveness of aromatherapy in treating psychotic ailments like anxiety and depression. To calm and heighten their mood, while at the same time helping them to release and absorb their past trauma in a constructive way. There are more to discover and explore in these aspects. My sample size is not large enough to make any comprehensive observations, but these case studies serve as an insightful and explorative information.

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