Bipolar disorder is characterized by unusual mood swings ranging from extreme elation (happiness) or mania, to bouts of depression. Relationships with such persons can be a strain with confusion and frustration for them and their loved ones. If you are a bipolar person, you might downplay the effect your temperament and mood has on your family, colleges and friends, but the truth is those two elements at each point will determine how you react to everyone around you.
An irritable mood is a key symptom of the disorder, and the negative feeling you send out could come back to you because people around you who are not aware of your condition as well as those who are may send the wrong signals in their attitude towards you .
Your total attitude in terms of your words, tone of voice, and body language can be misunderstand and attract negative response. Silence is golden only when appropriate as silence and a lack of communication can be just as hurtful as words. A lack of communication and a feeling of aloofness is not the mood you need to be in as others would like you to care.
As a bipolar person, if you are married, your relationship with your spouse can become quite strained during your changing moods. You may wonder if your marriage will survive. Statistics show that bipolar marriages have a 40 percent failure rate. Only ten percent of bipolar marriages survive. That statistic should not be the nail in the coffin of your marriage. You must fight to make your marriage work. Here are 3 tips to save your marriage:
1. Involve your spouse in counseling. The two of you should seek this together and help yourself sort out the issues you are experiencing. You will learn from a trained therapist about how to relate with your partner. The therapist should be knowledgeable about bipolar disorder and its effect on marriage.
2. A time out is a necessity for a bipolar relationship. This is because of the daily strain for both parties. A vacation together will provide a break away from the ups and downs and rejuvenate your relationship. A spouse should also understand that the bipolar person needs time on his or her own too, however, this should not be for too long for obvious reasons. You could also go with a close family member or friend for support.
3. The key in any marriage is understanding. You need to tolerate and forgive each other. Forgive regardless of if your spouse requests for it or not. The bipolar husband or wife will remember he or she has your unconditional love and that will encourage him or her to focus on the treatment.
A positive frame of mind will lift the spirits of anyone around you. Show love, care, a smile, and an acknowledgment when needed. This applies to people other than your spouse too. Be thankful and be considerate of other people's feelings and in return people will see you as a person and treat you kindly. If you want to be remembered as a happy and likeable person since your condition, then be aware of the depressed and moody attitude around you. People are bound to absorb and reflect your moods therefore try to radiate positive energy which will help you cope with everyday life and build healthy relationships.